Answer How Do You Handle Conflict Like a Pro

Answer How Do You Handle Conflict Like a Pro Part of our ongoing series to help you answer common behavioral interview questions.Hiring managers love to ask behavioral questions and one of their favorite subjects is conflict. Here are a few examples of conflict-related behavioral questions:Tell me about a team project when you had to work with someone difficult.Tell me about a time you had a conflict at work.Give an example of a time you had to respond to an unhappy manager/customer/colleague.Tell me about a time that you disagreed with a rule or approach.There are many other variations on this theme and it is a very common interview topic. From the interviewers perspective, the idea is to find out about the candidates conflict management ability and general interpersonal skills.Recently, I was conducting an interview skills workshop for managers at a large corporation. The subject of conflict behavioral questions came up (this big multinational company uses primarily behavioral questions when interviewing candidates).One mana ger shared a memorable answer to How would you handle a conflict at work? A recent candidate responded: Id invite that person to meet me in the parking lot after work and sort it out man-to-man. Guess what? He didnt get the job.Before we tell you how to answer the question like a champ, heres a little refresher on answering behavioral interview questions in general.NOTE: This is Lesson 10 from the Big Interview interview training system. Take a quick look here if you want to learn more about it.Behavioral Interviewing RefresherMost job interviews include behavioral questions (those questions that typically start with Tell me about a time or Give me an example of or similar).With behavioral questions, interviewers seek examples of how youve handled specific situations in the past. The idea is that past job performance will say a lot about how you would handle yourself if hired for the job at hand.Learn more about behavioral interview questions and some general advice on preparing for and answering them.Why Interviewers Ask About ConflictMost jobs require you to get along with different types of people. Some of your coworkers, managers, and/or clients will turn out to be idiots, slackers, and/or weirdos. Disagreements are bound to arise.To succeed at work, you must be able to deal with conflict professionally. This is particularly true in certain jobs (project management, customer service, law) and in certain company cultures.Your interviewer wants to get a sense of how you will respond to conflict. Anyone can seem nice and pleasant in a job interview, but what will happen if youre hired and Gladys in Compliance starts getting in your face?Conflict questions are common because everybody wants to hire a good team player. (It is probably the most common behavioral question subject) Interviewers often ask about your team experiences and they like to ask specifically about one that involved a conflict or difficult person.Inside Big InterviewOur complete training sys tem for job interviews gives you video lessons, sample answers, and an interactive practice tool for all of the different versions of conflict interview questions. Get StartedHow to Answer Behavioral Questions About ConflictThis type of question can catch you off-guard. After all, youve probably been focusing on how to talk about all of the positive and wonderful bullet points on your resume.Nobody likes to talk about conflict at work. Most work conflicts are boring. Plus, youd probably prefer to pretend that you are an absolute delight to work with and that nobody has ever had an unkind word to say about you.A behavioral question about conflict forces you to talk about a less-than-delightful situation. It can be difficult to come up with a good example on the fly and even more difficult to describe in concisely in a way that presents you in a favorable light.This is why its important to prepare an example in advance using the S.T.A.R format.The goal is not to script out an answer word-for-word. The STAR format allows you to structure the general shape of your response by jotting down bullets for each of the key aspects of the story. Check out Big Interview for more guidance on structuring great STAR stories and an Answer Builder tool that you can use to make the process much easier.Sample Answer Tell Me About a Time You Had a Conflict on a Team Project.Heres an overview of how to use the STAR format specifically to present a conflict experience:S/T (Situation/Task)Briefly describe the context for the conflict that arose. Provide just enough background information for context.Example Situation/Task BulletsI was managing the creation of our new corporate brochure and we were on a very tight deadline because we had to have brochures printed in time for a big upcoming trade show.I was in charge of delivering on time and I had to manage team members from Marketing, Sales, Graphic Design, and Product Management.The designer that was assigned to the project was v ery talented, but unfortunately missed a deadline that I assigned. When I approached him about it, he blew up at me.Why We Like ThemThese bullets provide good context it was an important and complex project with a tight deadline. The designer not only missed a deadline but threw a fit when called on it. This is a real conflict that could have led to disaster if handled poorly.Tip: Dont get too caught up in unnecessary details. The interviewer doesnt need to know about the color scheme of the brochure, the history of the trade show, or the designers weird wardrobe choices.A (Approach)Talk about the key actions that you took. In the case of a conflict story, the focus should be on how to resolved the disagreement in a professional and productive way.Example Approach BulletsI was taken aback by his response, but I remained calm. I acknowledged that the deadlines were tight and explained again the reasoning and the importance of having the brochure ready for the trade show.He relaxed a little when he saw that I wasnt attacking him. He told me about all of his other competing projects and how overwhelmed he was. I asked him if there was any way that I could help him come up with a solution.Eventually, we agreed that it would help if his manager had a better understanding of how important and time-consuming this project was. We decided we would speak with her together.She ended up assigning some of his other projects to another designer, which took some of the pressure off of him.Why We Like ThemThis candidate walks through the actions taken and why. He shows that he stayed calm under pressure, tackled the issue head-on, and was able to persuade others (the designer and his manager) to his point of view.Tip: Again, stick to the actions that are most relevant and that show your conflict-management prowess.R (Results)Every good interview story includes a happy ending. End your response with a description of the positive outcome(s) of your action. These results can be quantifiable (increased sales 20%, saved the company $25K) or anecdotal (The client was thrilled and sent my manager an email, my manager loved my approach and gave me a promotion).Example Results BulletsAs a result, the designer was able to focus on the brochure and meet the deadlines.He apologized for his blow-up and thanked me for my help.We successfully completed the brochure in time for the trade show and received numerous compliments from both our own sales reps and potential customers.Our trade show presence led to $300,000 in new sales leads and I believe the new brochure played a key role in that.Why We Like ThemThis is a nice, concise happy ending. The candidate describes the resolution of the conflict, the positive effect on the relationship with the designer, and the business outcome.Tip: The bottom-line results ($$$) make it even more impressive. This is not possible with every conflict-resolution story, but you should always pick the example with the most significant results.Watch this brief video to learn a little more about Big Interview, and  then take a quick look at the step-by-step system weve developed to get you ready for your interview.More Tips forHandling Behavioral Questions About Work Conflicts1. Pick a Good Example:Choose an example that shows you taking an active approach to resolving an important conflict.Be specific. Dont give a general answer like, I deal with conflicts all the time and have learned to stay calm and that communication is key. Its boring and it doesnt answer the question.Dont choose a minor disagreement (He didnt want Italian for lunch) or a conflict that was resolved by someone else or just went away without direct action. The idea here is to show off your interpersonal skills and problem-solving ability.Avoid examples that could make you look bad. For example, dont share a time when your mistake or miscommunication CAUSED a conflict.2. Get Specific About Your ActionsThe most memorable and compelling stories in clude enough detail to paint a picture. Show why this conflict was important and that you handled it capably.However, you must make an effort to keep the story concise. Its very easy to go off on tangents (especially if you havent prepared in advance). Keep it focused.Stick to bullet points. Dont try to memorize a script.3. PracticeTake the time to practice telling your story. This is especially important when telling a story about conflict.Conflicts often lead to arguments, problems, and damaged/broken professional relationships. You want to feel confident discussing the sensitive details in a way that gets your points across.Funny example of Adam Sandler NOT handling conflict well.